anxiety

How to adapt when you’re forced into change

How to adapt when you’re forced into change

Right now we are being asked to change and it isn’t our choice. Your feelings will come in waves or come and stay, but ultimately, you need to figure out how you’ll adjust and adapt to this forced change.   You’re being challenged to step out of your comfort zone.

Why Your Black & White Thinking Makes Your Anxiety Worse

Why Your Black & White Thinking Makes Your Anxiety Worse

When you approach your life in extremes, it either all works out, or it’s a horrible failure.  But even if it all works out, it’s fleeting and temporary.  You still fall back into the pattern of aiming for the “all” and fearing the “nothing.”  This is an exhausting

The Insidious Nature of Shame and Finding Your Way Out (Part 3)

The Insidious Nature of Shame and Finding Your Way Out (Part 3)

You may wonder how Shame shows up in your own life, or you may already have a good sense of that.  Usually shame is so deeply rooted that only what is noticed on the surface is your first clue. (The first 2 parts of the series will help you understand how it developed in the first place)

The Insidious Nature of Shame and Finding Your Way Out (Part 2)

The Insidious Nature of Shame and Finding Your Way Out (Part 2)

Since shame usually develops slowly over time, from early experiences with caretakers and family dynamics, Shame develops as a sense of self.  

The Insidious Nature of Shame and Finding Your Way Out (Part 1)

The Insidious Nature of Shame and Finding Your Way Out (Part 1)

Shame is a tricky emotion.  I call it insidious because it really creeps in slowly and subtly, almost stealth.  It doesn’t rise up quickly like rage, panic, or excitement.  It holds on tight just beneath the surface and colors one’s perception of themselves in their world and in their relationships. 

Bananagrams and Allowing Change in Your Life

Bananagrams and Allowing Change in Your Life

Allowing change is about breaking out of what we know and allowing something completely different to take shape.  We don’t know yet what that will be and what the road will look like, but we begin down the path.

The Hour of the Wolf and Late Night Vices

The Hour of the Wolf and Late Night Vices

Do you spend your late evening hours eating, drinking, watching more TV than you’d like, wasting hours on the computer….?  What’s your vice in the late night hours? 

Slow It Down

Slow It Down

You know life has gotten extraordinarily busy and fast paced when there is an emerging movement spreading like wildfire to slow down life‘s pace. The Slow Movement is a cultural shift to slow down everything from eating to parenting to traveling.

Finding Balance? Or Going with the Flow?

Finding Balance?  Or Going with the Flow?

I am used to helping others navigate the “too muchness” of how our lives shape up these days.  And I have often talked about having “balance” in life — not letting one thing take up all the space. 

The Care and Feeding of YOU

The Care and Feeding of YOU

As you're learning to take care of yourself and move away from unhealthy behaviors, there can be a strange experienceof "now what?"  When you've been used to soothing yourself in whatever problematic ways you have chosen (eating, restricting, shopping, caretaking,  etc), leaving those behaviors can leave you feeling like you don't quite know yourself or know what to do with yourself.