Since shame usually develops slowly over time, from early experiences with caretakers and family dynamics, Shame develops as a sense of self.
Right now we are being asked to change and it isn’t our choice. Your feelings will come in waves or come and stay, but ultimately, you need to figure out how you’ll adjust and adapt to this forced change. You’re being challenged to step out of your comfort zone.
When you approach your life in extremes, it either all works out, or it’s a horrible failure. But even if it all works out, it’s fleeting and temporary. You still fall back into the pattern of aiming for the “all” and fearing the “nothing.” This is an exhausting
Whether it be the voices of diet culture feeling a lot more vicious and louder to you, or your own inner vicious and critical voices swirling around, or your family giving you caring concern about your “health,” or feeling fed up, scared, and uncomfortable in your body, these doubts and fears can be normal stumbling blocks along the way. I decided to compile a blend of the most common themes my clients have struggled with
If your eating feels out of control to you, it could be a sign that there is something you are avoiding feeling, experiencing or doing. Getting to know the true hungers at the root of emotional eating and disordered eating can give you a new way to heal.